A good man died last week. He died of loneliness surrounded
by dozens of fiercely loyal friends, and a large gregarious family, and even
though he lashed out at everyone who tried to help, we all still loved him.
We all knew he was in trouble as soon as his wife died. This
former life of the party retreated into himself, and anger pushed out the
laughter. Then his chronic illness began eating away at his still young body.
He refused to listen when we begged him to take care of himself, and rejected
all offers of help. Even when he finally agreed to treatment, he quickly cut
the doctors off and refused further care. He went home to die, and in the end,
he refused to eat or drink. After three days, his weakened body gave up.
I don’t like to blog about sad things. I do this to put
positive words out there for you to read, but I have to find the kernel of
truth to this. When his wife died of cancer at 48, the message to me was clear:
don’t wait to live your life—do it now. This blog is one example of me doing
just that, but this death is senseless. Like many I’ve talked to, I was
angry—furious really—but that has mellowed and I have to stop to wipe tears
away as I write this. So here is my message: nurture hope. No one can give you
hope. We each must find it deep inside. Life is difficult and pain will come,
but always nurture that spark of hope.